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☆ 005 | Anonymous Text

[The network seems to have been seeing an influx of anonymous texts lately, and this one is no exception. Seems like the events of the past weekend have had some residents doing some reflecting.]

It is inevitable that no relationship will truly last forever. No matter how confident you are in the thought that things will be fine, they won't. You can delude yourself into thinking they will, but eventually they will dissolve and those left behind will move on.

Is it truly worth it to allow yourself to entrust another enough to open up to them, knowing that one day it will all go away? Is it worth letting yourself be hurt just for the brief moment of pleasure that person's presence might give you? Is it worth the risk of that person betraying your trust, only to come after you with malicious intent? Someone who you were so sure you knew until they have left you. Manipulated you. Deceived you.

Feel free to provide any answer you would like, but don't think you will impress me by saying it is better to have loved and lost than to have ever loved at all.

So tell me. Is it really?

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Obviously.

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Well, sometimes you get lucky.

Sometimes you don't.

No. As a general rule, it's usually not truly worth it.

However, rules have exceptions.

A few years ago I would've said no. Definitely not worth it. Now, I don't know.

It's a tough question.

I commend your timing; I too have been wondering about this sort of thing. I have always been of the opinion that it is better to care for no one except oneself. In my line of work especially, it is unwise to trust anyone. And yet, recently I have found myself doing just that - caring about another person. I have no explanation for this, and it's very troubling. If I were anywhere near as intelligent as I like to think I am, I would break off the relationship before these feelings became any stronger. But it is... difficult to do so.

Am I to assume you are in a similar situation?

It's worth the risk. If you really love someone... part of that is knowing that there's a risk and not caring. Putting what you are on the line with someone you can trust. Knowing that even if they could kill you, they wouldn't, because you care about each other too much to ever want to hurt each other.

Maybe one day that won't be the case. But I think - at least for my relationship - that we'd probably die before we betrayed each other.

Nope.

Yes.

[ But then, she had been born knowing that anyone she came to love would, someday, leave her. ]

Even if everyone leaves me someday, I'll treasure all the memories I make with them. Even if that doesn't impress others, that's what I think.

[ it takes several minutes of typing and backspacing and typing and backspacing some more before she comes up with a response and even that takes her a while to type out.

she's just glad she can make this reply without her name or face plastered all over it. ]

I think it's different for everyone.

If you were happy enough with them that whatever hurt comes later doesn't spoil all your memories, then it's worth it.

But if you're the kind of person who wouldn't be able to handle it, or if that person's bad for you, then it's better for you to have never loved them in the first place.

That's what I think anyway.

well, every experience is something to learn from, isn't it? i would say yes, it is, because in the long run, you end up with a better understanding of what makes things go wrong, whether it be recognizing that certain people are just hideously unlikable underneath a pleasant veneer or if, in fact, the problem isn't with them, but you.

and really, if you avoid things simply because they aren't eternal, what's the point in doing anything at all? this theoretical relationship could end in a week, or it could end in several decades when you're both dead.

ive never been in any relationship except friendship ones but...

i think its worth it.
when i got here i was sure id never be able to open up to people and im still afraid of losing those that i opened up but all i can really do is cling to it while i can.

ive... also done something like what you said there. lied to them and deceived them. i dont know if they regret opening up to me though.

I'm still looking for an answer to that myself.

I think it is? But the first time I did anything of the sort it didn't end well. Back home, I mean, it's not going to end well.

I think it's different here, in some ways, because we have infinite time to make and repair relationships as we so choose. But it's not the same back home, where you only get one shot at life, so it's hard to say.

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